Autism…our story

My wife and I are the proud parents of two wonderfully talented, gifted and loving boys who happen to be Autistic. For anyone not familiar with Autism, the condition is a developmental disorder that appears in the first 3 years of life, and affects the brain’s normal development of social and communication skills. There are varying degrees of the disorders which range from low functioning to high functioning abilities (layman terms).

What I would like to share with you today is the spiritual evolution of walking with God once you are aware of Autism being a major part of your life. My wife was the first to notice something wasn’t quite right with our boys. Our boys would have this void look and become easily fixated on various items/subjects. My first reaction of course was denial. I thought they were just being boys and that’s how boys operate.

Once I humbled out and started paying attention to what my wife was saying, than denial turned into concern. The lengthy process of finding a doctor, having our sons officially diagnosed and going through the arduous process of obtaining the proper school support was exhausting.

The next reaction was getting honest with God. I remember asking God why us? Didn’t we do everything right? Why couldn’t we have normal kids like everyone else we knew? Why does this have to be so hard? What are you trying to teach us God? Look, I’m just being honest here. My mind was racing with questions of why and trying to make sense of God’s purpose for it all.

During the course of daycare and early school grades, it has been a marathon of prayer, patience, hopelessness at times, lots of tears and reliance on God and God alone. The one scripture that has held it all together and provided perspective has been 2 Corinthians 12:9“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” We have learned along the way that God loves our children even more than we do. Therefore, we have nothing to fear for God works for the good of those who love him.

Often times the weight of our concerns for our boys has driven my wife and I to our knees asking God for direction, grace and mercy. There will be times in which you are clueless as to what you should pray for; and believe me those times will come. However, God will lead you to Romans 8:26-27 “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.”

Through it all God continues to reveal that He never takes us through a season without adequate clothing for the conditions we face. The season may be Spring when all things are being renewed which represents the renewing of our spirit. The season may be Summer when the environment is hot which may represent the call to persevere. Or, perhaps the season may be Fall when all things are being prepared for Winter which is a time of faith. Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Hebrew 11:1).

Whatever season you may be in, please know that you are not alone; and the God who gives us children as a gift from God (Psalms 127:3) knew what He was doing all along. Therefore, consider it pure joy for the season you are in, for He counted you worthy of raising and nurturing that which is so precious to Him, our children (Matthew 19:14).

** If anyone would like a special prayer request (Ephesians 6:18) please feel free to email me at sneedtx@verizon.net (your privacy will be respected and honored). I would love to pray for you. I also ask that you think of others whom you can share this message with as well.

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12 thoughts on “Autism…our story

  1. Hi Lionel,

    I am led to you as you were to me this morning. I would like to start by saying I admire your scripture understanding.

    I am a concerned brother. My concern is with our children and the subject of autism is once again in front of me. I have a few questions for you:

    Do you relate autism with any time of toxic poisoning? If not, do you believe there to be any clear reason autism is occurring in increasing amounts?

    I am not here to blame anyone. I think we have all been poisoned to some degree and I believe God has let this occur for only God knows and understands why. Having said that I have recently run into some additional information concerning detoxification (no, I am not going to sell you anything either).

    If you think the detoxification of heavy metals may be beneficial to help your children, please read up on the mineral zeolite.

    I would also like to comment on what I noticed with one recent autistic child. This child had a fascination with spinning objects. Every object he picked up or touched, he would spin with fascination. Knowing that autistics have certain gifts, I commented to a parent that he may have some innate gift of physics and suggested that she not quell this fascination, but rather feed it if she could.

    Have you noticed any “peculiarities” with your own children? Please don’t get upset. All of God’s children are peculiar and I do not exclude myself from this category.

    Lastly; I live in a country with an abundance of zeolite. I recently went and gathered a bottle of small stones to experiment with water purification. If you need some, I will send some to you.

    God Bless

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    • Thank you for reading my post. It brings me great joy sharing what God has placed on my heart. Regarding the increased cases of Austism, I believe the issue is primarily caused by chemicals in our food supply. Everything revolves around maximum shelf life. The longer the product’s shelf life, the more preservatives being added to the product.

      I’m not sure what the fascination with spinning objects may represent, but my kids do fixate on various items or subjects. This is normal for autistic children. There is so much to discuss about this matter. Perhaps, I will write a post geared towards what causes Austism.
      God bless you.

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    • Thank you Rita for your kind words! It is my prayer that the words that flow through my hands will reach and inspire hearts all over the world. God will continue to bless you and your family in all matters. – Lionel

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  2. Okay, my brother where have you been? Our mutual friend Mel mentioned your name to me a couple of days ago and today you “find” me. I actually have another wordpress blog, God, autism and me. Your posts are so heartfelt and sincere. God is definitely using you and preparing you for His purpose.

    I would love it if you would be willing to write some guest posts on that blog. I haven’t posted as much on that one as of late but am going to start back in a matter of hours. It is not your “usual” autism blog. I post about how God is with me on this journey and all the things I learn about Him looking at the diagnosis from a different point of view.

    I have two teenagers fifteen and sixteen. The fifteen year old is the diagnosed with autism. I don’t know how old your kids are but if there is anything I can do for you and your wife please let me know.

    Peace and Blessings! Lilka

    From your post, I’m thinking you too are in the metro ATL. I’m just a few miles east off I-20 🙂

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    • Hello Lilka,

      It was nothing but the spirit of the Lord that I saw the exchange between you Mel. Mel is an awesome sister in Christ just as you are. I must have missed it when she mentioned you. My wife and I use to live in Atlanta, but we relocated to Texas in 2004. However, we visit good friends every other year while on vacation.

      I am a newbie to the blogging world, so please forgive me if my ignorance is overwhelming. Regarding your suggestion of writing a guest blog, I would be honored. Just direct a brother to the procedure/process. Like I said, I’m new to the blogging world….lol. My thinking is all that is needed is to reply to the blog?

      I look forward to collaborating with you; and I would be honored if you guest blogged on any topic you see on my page. May God continue to keep and richly bless you.

      Lionel Sneed

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  3. Hi Lionel,
    Thanks so much for following my blog. I enjoy both Mel and Lilka and so I know I’ll be blessed and encouraged by what you share as well.
    I have a grandson with Prader-Willi Syndrome. It’s a genetic abnormality that results in a constant overwhelming sense of hunger unabated by any amount of food. There are often behavioral problems that manifest from puberty onward.
    I don’t think others realize the strain these ‘life-long’ challenges can create in a family. Thankfully you are God’s own and you know where your strength comes from!
    May Jesus encourage our hearts together as we share His work and word with one another.
    Kelly

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  4. Lionel, thank you for being the inspirational writer and exceptional parent that you are. It is not easy to work with anyone who has a challenge, but your doing it so faithfully gives others courage. We are lucky to live in a time when autism is seen as a challenge, not a sentence. I hope other parents will find you and follow your example. Thank you for following me — we can give each other strength in His name.

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  5. Thank you for sharing your faith and trust in God concerning your beautiful boys! That really helps all of us with children who may be different in some way. I remember asking God why too, and for healing and help. (and still do!) He told me early on with my daughter that she is healed, but others around her will need healed. I was one of those and the healing goes on! God bless you!

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    • Thank you so much for you wonderful comments. It has been an on going journey; but a journey in which we are so much better for it. I’m super grateful that God moved my heart to share our story with the world and I look forward to other words of encouragement God will place on my heart to share. Keep the faith, joy and love as God continues to direct, guide and bless you with such wonderful treasures.

      Psalm 127:3-5 Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates.

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