Seven years ago our younger son was born after my wife spent considerable time in the hospital on bed rest. The pregnancy was difficult, but my wife persevered like a true champion. I can remember feeling like a single parent while my wife was in the hospital. I did everything from cooking all the meals to drop off’s and pickups from the daycare.
During that time, I developed a newfound respect for single moms because I was familiar with single moms growing up as a kid. My mother was a single mom until she remarried. I remember my mom learning how to drive for the first time and becoming the bread-winner for the first time. Prior to being a single mom, she was a stay at home mom. Thus, she was entering a new chapter in her life.
Of course I’m aware of single dads as well. However, for this post I am compelled to focus on single moms due to the severity of the matter. According to Childstats.gov, in 2012, 24 percent of children lived with only their mothers, 4 percent lived with only their fathers, and 4 percent lived with neither of their parents.
This is nothing new on the existence of single mothers. The bible gives an amazing account of one single mother I would like to focus on for this lesson. The single mother I am referring to is Hagar. Hagar was the maidservant to Abram’s wife Sarai.
As Abram and Sarai grew older, they began to doubt the promise God gave Abram that they would have a child in their old age. Thus, Sarai suggested to Abram he should sleep with Hagar so the promise God made would be filled through Hagar’s womb. Naturally this sounded like a good idea to Abram. After all, it’s not often your wife suggest you sleep with a beautiful younger woman. So, Abram jumped at the chance without hesitation (Genesis 16:1-4)
Like any bad idea, things soon turned south. The Bible teaches (Genesis 16:4-6) that Sarai soon despised Hagar and began to mistreat her. As a result, Hagar fled to avoid further abuse. I’ve got to be honest, I always ask myself, “Sarai, why are you so angry with Hagar when it was your idea in the first place? I’m just being honest.
Later, the chapter gives an account of Hagar’s encounter with an angel of God who comforts her and provides prophecy as to the child’s future she is carrying. However, the scripture I would like to focus on for this devotional is Genesis 16:13 which reads, “She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.”
When Hagar had a face to face conversation with The Lord, her entire outlook changed. She realized she was not alone for God is the God who sees her. Hagar’s conversation with God shifted her focus off the problem and onto the one who revealed Himself to her spiritual sight.
I will be the first to tell you that raising children in a two parent household has enough challenges of its own let alone raising children as a single parent. God understands and the challenges of single moms and He is a source of constant help and inspiration for the season you’re in. Below I have provided scriptures to write on the table of your heart, for they will open your eyes to see God face to face just as Hagar did.
- Philippians 4:13 – I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
- Isaiah 40:29 – He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.
- Isaiah 40:31 – but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
- Psalm 46:1 – God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.
- Psalm 22:19 – But you, O LORD, be not far off; O my Strength, come quickly to help me.
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