“Ask and believe unhindered by your current circumstances.” – Lionel
“We are always on the mind of Christ even when our thoughts and actions are light years apart from who we have been created in Christ to be.” – Lionel
“Even when we feel squeezed out in a crowd, God still sees and hears you.” – Lionel
“When we focus on how much we love God, we always see our short comings i.e. ‘I may not be perfect, but I love the Lord.’ However, when we focus and proclaim how much He loves us, we then enter into a place of praise and thanksgiving. Today, focus on the unconditional love of the Father.” – Lionel
Ecclesiastes 4:12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Several days ago my good friend William Womack asked me to write a piece on prayer and marriage for his webpage “Doing it Together.” Naturally I said yes! Now, the process of petitioning God for the words to write has become a labor of love.
I believe the most compelling way to attest to anything in life, is to speak from experience. My beautiful wife and I have repeatedly experienced the power of prayer during our 15+ years of marriage. Through good and difficult times we have relied on the peace and power of prayer to change all matters of life.
As I began to pray about the subject of marriage and prayer, the Lord gave me this lesson and title of “Marriage and the three cords of prayer.” By no means is this lesson exhaustive of marriage and prayer, but I believe the three cords the Holy Spirit revealed to me are essential to a healthy marriage.
The basis for “Marriage and the three cords of prayer” derives from Ecclesiastes 4:12 which states “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” There is strength in multiples especially multiples ordained by God.
I believe the three cords of prayer in marriage consist of the following:
- The cord of submitting: Ephesians 5:21 “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
- The cord of oneness: Ephesians 5:31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
- The cord of forgiveness: 1 Peter 4:8 “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
Many years ago when my wife and I were vacationing in Destin Florida, we learned the cord of submitting to one another in the middle of an argument. My wife didn’t like the way I was parking the car, (I had a habit of touching the curb ALWAYS) which drove her nuts every time!
Of course, my male ego took over and I took the position of “I’ve driven longer then you, so who are you to tell me how to drive (such a caveman thing to say)! Well, that didn’t go over well at all. After much quarreling, the pain of silence took over.
At that moment, there was no one to call to help settle our differences. All we had was the bible, prayer, and each other.
In that moment of silence, the Lord led us to Ephesians 5:21 which states, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” We began to realize that it wasn’t about who was right, it was about what the word of God said was right.
You see, at that moment we realized what it meant to proclaim Jesus as Lord. This was more than a catchy slogan, or words; Jesus had to become Lord of our emotions, marriage, submission, prayer, and lives. Long story short, we resolved the issue and went on to have an amazing vacation.
That one moment became the cornerstone for our walk together with God. Now, is that saying we get it right all the time? Not at all. Sometimes we fail, but the Holy Spirit always takes us back to that moment in Destin Florida of submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. One more thing, I don’t park hitting the curb anymore. Thank God for a wonderful wife!
The cord of oneness according to Ephesians 5:31 says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Only the divine wisdom of God can seal the likeness of two as one.
The cord of oneness is like an onion because it has so many layers to explore. I also liken the cord of oneness to dominos because if one is knocked down, the rest will follow.
For example, a husband and wife must focus on taking care of each other i.e. listening and catering to various love languages (quality time, communicating, etc…). When the husband and wife take care of each other, this will flow over into the lives of their children. The family unit is happy and in harmony.
The cord of oneness as it relates to prayer in my opinion is the most powerful. When you come together in prayer as a couple, the divine ordainment of marriage becomes the special revelation of Matthew 18:20. The Lord said “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” The two ordained by God to become one encompasses the mantle of Mark 10:9 which says, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
The two whom God has made one are now the force of complete unity in the sight of God and man for their words are in agreement as one divinely appointed by God almighty. This is more than a mystery, this is the amazing work of the spirit of God who sets us up to be fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).
The cord on oneness in prayer joined with unshakable faith will indeed move mountains. I remember not to long ago when my wife and I where hit with a million dollar law suit. We came together in prayer united with the cord of oneness.
For two years we earnestly prayed for the person filing the lawsuit to find peace with God; and that the lawsuit would be settled with all parties in agreement with no further damages being sought. The Lord answered our prayer by granting everything we asked for and more. The God we serve is awesome indeed.
Lastly, but certainly not least, the cord of forgiveness is crucial to the longevity of all marriages…period! With forgiveness, the words of Apostle Peter in 1 Peter 4:8 enables love to cover a multitude of sin. Without forgiveness in marriage, the words of Apostle Paul will prevail every time.
Paul says in Galatians 5:15 that “If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.” Countless marriages have been destroyed due to unforgiveness. Unforgiveness stems from keeping prolonged records of wrong.
It’s something about the person you love that puts more weight on what is perceived as an offense. The offense takes on a life all to itself because we are vested in the offender. We feel at times “How dare you treat or talk to me that way after all I’ve done for you.” Then the divisive expression of “You always” is thrown around like mud.
In this passion of mud-slinging, all parties are defeated before the mud dries. However, the power of the cord of forgiveness can and will defeat any weapon that sets itself up against the power to forgive.
They say forgiveness is for the individual, but I say forgiveness as it relates to marriage is for the spirit of oneness which God divinely made from two. The two cannot be separated under the covering of God’s divine protection of marriage.
Furthermore, Jesus put a premium on forgiveness for Matthew 18:21-22 says, “Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.”
Jesus also used the cord of forgiveness to unite those who submit to Christ in the spirit of 1 Peter 4:8, for Peter also said above all else, love each other deeply. This love is rooted on the foundation of Jesus Christ and 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 which says:
4 Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily
angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in
evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always
perseveres. 8 Love never fails.
My prayers is for all marriages to be strengthened by the cords of submitting, oneness, and forgiveness under the blood and grace of Jesus Christ. That nothing covered with the power of prayer can or will ever fail that is in the will of God.
We are called to live a purpose filled life that is meant to be a blessing to others as we walk out this thing we call life. Isn’t it good to know that the God we love and serve intended for you and I to find strength in each other?
A strength that though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. To God be the glory and honor, amen!
To God be the glory, amen!